Posts Tagged ‘grieving’

A Time of Thanks Forever and Ever and Ever

November 4, 2014

And God asked the feline spirit

Are you ready to come home?

Oh, yes, quite so, replied the precious soul

And, as a cat, you know I am most able.

Are you coming then?  Asked God.

Soon, replied the whiskered angel

But I must come slowly

For my human friends are troubled

For you see, they need me quite certainly.

But don’t they understand? Asked God

That you’ll never leave them?

That your souls are intertwined. For all eternity?

That nothing is created or destroyed?

It just is….forever and ever and ever.

Eventually they will understand,

Replied the glorious cat

For I will whisper into their hearts

That I am always with them

I just am….forever and ever and ever.Stanley in plant6

Pet Memorial Day – September 14, 2014

September 26, 2014

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It was a beautiful day with blue skies and a gentle breeze caressing our faces.  There were so many folks in attendance; we brought out extra chairs for those who wanted to sit during the ceremony and blessing of the animals.  We thank our many friends who were able to attend and for those who could not be there, we were with you in Spirit and Prayer.  Although, National Pet Memorial Day was held at Rolling Acres Memorial Gardens and other special events across the country on September 14, 2014, we can memorialize our pets any day of the year.  Creating a special memorial for your pet can be as simple or elaborate as you desire.  It is personal preference and what ever is meaningful to you.  Included are a few suggestions, should you desire to create your own personalized memorial for your beloved pet.  Anything you decide to do should meet your special need to express your sorrow over your loss and share your feelings while paying a tribute to the special bond you share with your pet.

If you like to write, create a special poem or story about your pet. It can be in the form of an article, song, letter, obituary or eulogy sharing your feelings about saying goodbye to your special pet.

Share verbal stories and let others know it is okay to talk about their feelings about your pet.  It is better to keep the memories alive rather than act as though nothing has changed.

Place a small clipping of fur, feather, or teeth in a small container or locket.

If your pet had a special skill or competed in events, create a memory book, shadow box, or make a wall hanging from the ribbons.  Some people make quilts or pillows from the ribbon fabric from the pet’s winning competitions.

Decorate a candle or candle holder and light it in memory of your beloved pet.

Write his or her name on a balloon and release the balloon.

Donate a  book to the a local library in honor of your pet.  Please the pet’s name on the bookplate inside the front cover of the book.

Children need to express their grief also.  Create an art corner where they can draw pictures, write stories, or just talk about their memories of their pet.

Have a professional artist create a painting of your pet from a favorite photo.

Have items imprinted (watch, mug, notepads, t-shirt, etc.) with your pet’s photo.

Purchase a stuffed animal or statue that resembles your pet and put your pet’s collar around its neck.

There are many ways to memorialize your pet.  Check out these webpages for more ideas.

http://www.visitrollingacres.com

http://www.lovinghearts.com

http://www.pet-loss.net

http://www.dogtime.com

http://www.vetstreet.com

Choices and Options for the Final Responsibility

June 20, 2014

HealingWe have choices and options available to us when the time comes for our Final Responsibility to our loved ones.  Believe it or not, there are choices of firms that will provide services for the afterlife care of your pet.  You do have the right to request burial and  either private or communal cremation.  These are topics most people do not like to think about until the time comes, however, it is worth the time to plan ahead.  It is your final responsibility to your beloved pet.

Don’t be afraid to ask questions, lots of questions.  Ask enough questions so that you can rest assured you are going to get exactly what you want when the time comes.  Ask a veterinarian, search the Internet, or look in the yellow pages for Pet Cemeteries and/or Crematories.  Why shouldn’t we have rituals for our deceased pets?  The pet parent has the right to plan a visitation, memorial service, or funeral service specially designed for them.  Discussing this before and making selections of services and/or urns helps us feel some sense of control in a situation where we feel a great loss of control in loosing a loved one.

Many people, in fact, most people leave their pet’s body at the veterinarian’s office.  They experience a lot of stress and grief wondering about what happened to the body.  Some people do not want to ask, as they are afraid of the answer.  None of us want our loved ones to die, but we all realize it is inevitable.  Most people are not aware there are options in caring for the deceased pet’s body in a respectful and dignified manner.

The best time to start is early on in your pet’s life.  Feel free to go and visit a facility to see if you like the people that work there and are comfortable with them handling the final arrangements for your best friend and beloved companion.  It is best to investigate before you actually need the services and are in an emotional state of mind.  Most people feel better and enjoy their pets even more knowing they are prepared and have trust in the facility and people who will care for their pet in their time of greatest need.  Making a prearrangement plan helps alleviate some of the stress of experiencing the grief of the loss of a loved one.  With a plan in place, all one needs to do while grieving and hurting is make a phone call, knowing their treasured companion will be handled according to their wishes.  The promise of handling their pet during this time with compassion, dignity and respect helps ease the pain of the loss.

Let Your Love Grow

April 25, 2014

“What we have once enjoyed we can never lose.  All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.”  Helen Keller

Your beloved pet has passed away, you chose a private cremation so you have your pet’s ashes and you are wondering what to do next. How do you memorialize such a special relationship? There are so many options and decisions to make and your mind is so overwhelmed with the grieving of your loss, it is difficult to know what to do.

“Let Your Love Grow” is a relatively new option that many people are unaware of when  making decisions about memorializing of their pet.  “Let Your Love Grow” provides the opportunity to have a living memorial of your pet, by using the cremated ashes of a loved one to nourish the plant.  A common misconception is that cremated ashes can be used by themselves in the ground, under or around  a new or existing plant or tree, and that the ashes will help the plants grow.  On the contrary, the cremated ashes on their own will not allow for the release of the nutrients which as in the pet’s ashes.  Instead of nurturing plants, the untreated ashes will actually harm surrounding plant life.  The high pH of cremated ash does not allow nutrients to become available for plant life; additionally, the high sodium (salt) content of cremated ash can harm plant life.  “Let Your Love Grow” is a specially formulated organic mixture that lowers the pH and dilutes the harmful sodium (salt), as well as releases the nutrients from the cremated ashes. Regular soil and potting soil will not do this.  Using “Let Your Love Grow” is the answer to creating a living memorial.

Creating a living memorial is actually a very simple process.  Here are the steps:

1. Select a plant appropriate for your climate and situation.

2. Mix the appropriate amount of cremated ashes with “Let Your Love Grow” (we at Rolling Acres will help you with this; both the amounts and mixing, if you desire.)

3. Plant this mixture along with your chosen plant.

4. Water in abundance to keep plants healthy.

In the grief process, many of us want to have something we can touch and see to remind us of the one who is no longer here and keep them close to us of the one who is no longer here and keep them close to us. Nothing could ever replace that life; however, selecting a plant or tree for your home or garden is a wonderful way to cherish and celebrate the special bond you have with your pet. A plant or tree is a living memorial – a way to express love that has not ended with death. the circle of life is continued when nourished by “Let Your Love Grow” and the cremated ashes.  Something extraordinary truly happens as it becomes a living symbol of the special life you shared.

 

http://vimeo.com/45867018

Let Your Love Grow

 

 

Pocket Pets – Good things come in small packages

April 5, 2014

There is an old saying – “good things come in small packages.”  I guess the same can be said for our companion animals.  Most people think of companion animals as dogs, cats, horses, rabbits, guinea pigs, miniatures horses, pot belly pigs and birds.  There are a growing number of people who also think of rats, mice, lizards, sugar gliders, hamsters, fish and turtles as companion animals.  Who is to judge what others see in these animals as pets? 

I had a pet duckling when growing up.  That little duckling followed me everywhere.  I called her “darling.”  One day I found “darling” on the ground, torn apart by Lord knows what !!  I was devastated to say the least.  My mom was understanding and scooped her up, wrapped her in a towel and took her to the vet.  The vet was very kind and compassionate and offered information on afterlife care, as she knew how much “darling” had meant to me.  We decided to bury her in our backyard.  However, this is not an option for those who live in an apartment, or some other places in the city due to ordinances. 

I wrote a poem and we had a little memorial service with friends and family for little “darling,” but it was really more for me to say good-bye to my pet duckling.  It is one of the best gifts my mom could have provided for me.  I learned how to grieve at a young age and also how to take care of the steps when a pet passes away.  Eight years old is not too young to understand death and grieving.  I believe that having this life experience at a young age helped mold me into a more compassionate adult.  If you have an experience you would like to share, we invite you to comment on our blog, or send your comments or story to our contact page.Image